Oftentimes the louder we get, the less we accomplish with our words. Let me ask you, "Do you like to be yelled at?"
I didn't think so.
Does someone yelling at you make you want to agree with them or do what they are asking you to do?
So why is it that people raise their voices to get their point across?
I'm not sure as to all the reasons why, but I think a lot of times is has to do with the fact that we are not in control.
Of the situation.
Of our children.
Of our emotions.
Many times a parent will yell at a child out of anger or frustration. Most parents realize this is not good and believe that they should not do it. Yet they seem helpless to stop. They don't know of any other way to gain their child's attention. Solomon gives us a better way. Instead of a loud and angry voice, why not soften your voice? I can almost guarantee the response you will get from the loud voice is not the one you are looking for. Solomon says it will stir up anger. Children get scared when you yell at them. That is, until they get used to it. As they get accustomed to the yelling they harden their hearts to it and to us. Yelling also teaches children not to listen to us until we raise our voices. When your child is no longer afraid of your anger it is because she has seen so much of it and has learned to ignore it and you.
We are to show respect to everyone (1 Peter 2:17). And children deserve respect just like anyone else. Please be respectful of your children and don't yell at them. Learn to keep your emotions in check and model that behavior in front of them. The next time their unseemly conduct needs your attention, remember to soften your voice, not raise it. You'll be amazed at how much better the results can be.
Grace and Peace,